Advice please. 🥹

Our anniversary is on the 15th, so we’re planning to celebrate this weekend. My in-laws offered to watch Kyson for us, and I know he’d be in great hands.
But here’s the thing… he’s not even a month old, and this would be my first time leaving him since he was born. I’m so nervous. 😅
My husband is completely on board with letting his parents babysit and thinks it’ll be good for us to have a few hours together. Meanwhile, I’m over here wanting to pack Kyson up and bring him along. 😂
For the moms/dads out there, did you leave your baby for a date night that early? Did it help, or did you spend the whole time checking your phone? Tell me your experiences and reassure this first-time mama! 🤍

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Unefilletrescurieuse · F

Your husband is right. It will be good for both of you.

I had to leave mine and go back to work at 6 weeks old. It was not easy at first but she was in very capable hands. All turned out well.

SammyJo · 56-60, F

Not quite the 'just-after-a-month', but not far off actually. Yes, we did the same but with a babysitter (a literal 'babysitter'! Lol!) and, whilst myself and my other 'arf were only a few miles away there was that thought still lingering.

What I do remember vividly is that at one point we had loosened up so much that we were actually having F-U-N for something like 20 minutes, realising that, and then felt guilty...then catching ourselves feeling guilty for feeling guilty! Nuts!

Short term? Odd..a little scary, but for no reason whatsoever. Mid term? Good for both my and my partner to acknowledge the 'separate entity' and not just an extension of ourselves. Long term? Started us all on the road of socialising, of others...and of trust.

So...good for child development....good for parent development....good for relationship development...a healthy thing, all around.

Sure...you'll look at your phone...sure...some of your date 'chat' will be about your child...all very natural.

Go out...enjoy!

SJD xx

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