I'm not sure how to be relevant to my 10-year-old

She loves computers and as a computer engineer, this should give us a lot in common,but it hasn't really worked that way. Well today she needed help replacing some 3d modelling software that was discontinued. So I agreed to help her and applied my methodical and pedantic system for selecting software, and partway through, announced she had lost interest. 🤷🏻‍♂ I'm sure there was a better way to handle that, and I couldn't have figured it out myself in a million years

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Casheyane · 31-35, F

Maybe don't do something hard and would require a lot of explaining.

Instead, do something you really love that is simple and see if she would show interest. But don't stick to that one thing. Enjoy your time spent with her. Give her memories of how she would be treated as a woman.

I don't know about other daughters. But I still remember the moments I was a kid and came to dad to his work. And at lunch, we ate out and bonded, and he told me not to grow up. He treated me like he knew how precious I am but knows one day, he'd have to let me go. So he made sure to tell me then that he would be my date for the now.

So the thing that you would leave her is how you made her feel and how she thought you felt when you were sharing the experience.