Idc who you are if you are not the parent, grandparent, aunt or uncle you don’t yell at someone else’s kid.
Especially if the parent is standing RIGHT THERE 🤬
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I accept that the majority of parents feel this way,
and that this ethic is both normal and customary everywhere in the West.
I also accept that shouting at any kid is abusive - unless of course it's an urgent cry of "STOP!" or similar to prevent an imminent car accident or some such.
However, I have sometimes intervened to say, "You never get your needs met by throwing a tantrum" -- and it works spectacularly well. The toddler is totally ignoring its parent's exasperated attempts to calm them down (or punish them). But when I as a stranger quietly intervene, it shocks the child so much - that a stranger is on the parent's side - that they shut up and actually listen. It's amazing how it totally transforms the situation. And I wouldn't be surprised if it had turned out to be a moment of dawning understanding for the kid.
and that this ethic is both normal and customary everywhere in the West.
I also accept that shouting at any kid is abusive - unless of course it's an urgent cry of "STOP!" or similar to prevent an imminent car accident or some such.
However, I have sometimes intervened to say, "You never get your needs met by throwing a tantrum" -- and it works spectacularly well. The toddler is totally ignoring its parent's exasperated attempts to calm them down (or punish them). But when I as a stranger quietly intervene, it shocks the child so much - that a stranger is on the parent's side - that they shut up and actually listen. It's amazing how it totally transforms the situation. And I wouldn't be surprised if it had turned out to be a moment of dawning understanding for the kid.