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How many more red flags....

Update.... I went and got advice from police and reached out to family court advisor but nothing they will do as it's court order for him to see her and talk with them which I've tired to do.
I've spoken to my socal service and I've told them baby's dad will be on supervised visatatuons and my mum will be with him and anything else happens my mum will remove her.
When I told this to Paul my ex he said that if my mum is to come anywhere near him or our daughter while he has her he will call the police and that he will no longer stay at the center for visitation he will take her wherever he wants with whoever he wants. No one cares to help me at all but apparently if I go against the court order I could face prison or a fine are they seriously?




Leia is now 7 months old she sees her dad every Friday for an hour and while he sees her I have a meeting next door to where he has her and all I could hear is her crying didn't think too much of it but then he starts raising his voice so I run out of my meeting to find my daughter in someone else's arms with two other people standing around her. A lady I know told me he was getting stressed out because she wouldn't stop crying and instead of coming to me so he could take a breather he was shouting at her but the lady told me earlier that morning she had to assist him in changing her nappy because he was getting annoyed with her moving?
What sane person shouts at a baby this is his strike he had one chance and he's blown it, but this isn't the only problem I've had with him he's always late to seeing her.
But my point is he's taken no parenting classes at all but he says he will be fine.
I have too other kids but with baby I still ended up going to the surestart classes as its nice to mingle and learn from others.
I have no clue anymore what to do. My daughters safety is most important but everyone keeps telling me but he's the dad he has a right to see her
Not if he's a safety threat to her hell no we go back to court in October
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You are correct.

Don't be another crying mother on TV.
MiraRoss · 31-35, F
@SomeMichGuy what do you mean by this? Another crying mother?
@MiraRoss You are right about him.

Don't be the mother who listened to "but he's the father" and ends up being interviewed about how your baby died or is screwed for life by "dad" shaking her, beating her, etc.

Any guy who can't understand that crying is one of the few ways a baby can let you know something is wrong, that guy needs to NOT be around babies.
MiraRoss · 31-35, F
@SomeMichGuy ah i get you.yes i definitely dont want to get there at all.
Just dont know what to do because of court i agreed to let him see her and if i dont follow it there is consequences and ive tried to get in touch with them but nothing no one seems to care
@MiraRoss The people involved in today's incident need to step up and let others know what he did.

Perhaps this is one way that CPS could be of assistance(?) but I would check w/others about what their involvement might mean.
MiraRoss · 31-35, F
@SomeMichGuy i have a social worker involved too because he told them lies and they arnt even getting back to me
@MiraRoss They are likely overwhelmed.

If the neighbors will help w/a police report, that would likely give them something that FORCES them to do something/react.

Better that report than something worse.
MiraRoss · 31-35, F
@SomeMichGuy i dont know the neighbours or anything he doesnt come to my house
@MiraRoss Whoever helped today.

Get a car there tonight and ask whoever helped to talk / go with your baby & the police to them
MiraRoss · 31-35, F
@SomeMichGuy its not open now till morning so will sort tomorrow im there to do our session so ill be there at 9.30
@MiraRoss Good! This WAS a red flag
Don't let this opportunity slip away.
MiraRoss · 31-35, F
@SomeMichGuy didnt think it was enough to get police involved but i will
@MiraRoss Well, if no one else is listening, I bet a new police report HAS to get attention; too many kids have been killed by violence from parents, b/gfs, or other caregivers.

The social worker won't want to be on TV / in the news for missing THAT.

If there is a family law lawyer who will give you some counsel, they likely know a lot better.
MiraRoss · 31-35, F
@SomeMichGuy will see what happens with the police and go from there
@MiraRoss Good mother!