At what age shoulda kid learn about their relative not being blood-relative?

My oldest sister and I have a different dad from my youngest 2 sisters. Mom is married to the dad of the youngest 2, and he's seen as all of our dad.

Oldest sis has 3 kids (9, 12, and 13 years old)
Oldest kid is starting to question why I call "my dad" by name instead of "dad"

I feel like oldest 2 kids might be able to understand, but youngest isn't quite there yet.

It feels like the 2 oldest deserve to know, but it would feel wrong telling them and not the youngest.

Obviously I'm not gonna tell them anything without their moms approval, I just think it's a good question to ponder upon.

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midnightrose · F

I told my kids about my dad not being my biological dad pretty early on. I also explained to them that he was still their papa.

calicuz · 56-60, M

Ultimately it is up to your sis to tell them, and judging by their ages she might be waiting for the youngest to get a little older so they can better understand and handle it. When it comes to the oldest one, if they really want to know, they will ask.

exchrist · 31-35

My mom told us about our aunt being a college friend that took the role of her sister; whom had comitted suicide. When we were in elementary school. That 'aunt' was a frequent presence in our lives. Still is

ninalanyon · 61-69, T

Is that really a big deal in Norway?

BarbossasHusband · 36-40, M

@ninalanyon depends on the person, I guess

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