Why is my dad being a jerk when I was growing up still stick in my mind?

I just don't understand why it is always in the back of my mind a good portion of the time. I mean, im 28. I feel like I should be through it by now. Yeah know? And the worst of it wasn't even directed at me all the time.

@Pimpedcheerios88: Did you ever get counseling about it ? You'd be surprised how things can linger under the surface of our consciousness if they're not dealt with. And even if it wasn't directed at you, you grew up in that atmosphere, seeing it as the "normal" way people relate.

@bijouxbroussard: yeah but it was awhile ago and I was mainly focusing on separating my feelings from my mom's.

@Pimpedcheerios88: takes years to deal with.