for the parents here..

have you or would you let you child when say 15 to 16 have a drink or few of alcohol or smoke some weed with you?
Seems to be a mixed bag type of thing. Many of my mates who are parents straight out refuse to do that and thats cool and whatever.
My parents let me have some drinks and some weed when I was 15 but only when they were around and only at the house.
Their logic being if you're going to do it, at least they would be there to know we were safe

thoughts?

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SW-User

I don't and never have smoked weed, so that would definitely never happen. I drink alcohol occasionally.

Tbh I'd rather not encourage alcohol use, but some wine at the dinner table when you are 15-16 is acceptable I think. The crucial aspect is parental supervision.

Torsten · 36-40, M

@SW-User when your daughter gets older and if she ever said about trying weed, would you refuse it and take the risk she is out somewhere else doing it?
Its a tough question I think, one I am still deciding myself.

SW-User

@Torsten yes, I would refuse it.

Somehow, and maybe unrealistically, I want to think that she won't want to try weed...same goes for her brother. It's hard to explain but although I was rebellious in some ways as a teenager (usually with boys - and mostly ones *not* from my own background), I never wanted to try drugs. I lacked an interest in trying them, but it was also because I knew it would disappoint my parents. I did other things that disappointed them but drugs were something I couldn't do lol. Even as an adult, I wouldn't.

I would explain some of the harms that drugs can lead to, and maybe that would make my children less inclined to try them. It always comes down to who you're friends with as well...and so I wouldn't want them associating with teenagers/people who do that.

Torsten · 36-40, M

@SW-User that is fair. I am sure you're doing a wonderful job raising them and have you as a good influence

SW-User

@Torsten I hope so

thanks ☺️

Torsten · 36-40, M

@SW-User welcome :)