for the parents here..

have you or would you let you child when say 15 to 16 have a drink or few of alcohol or smoke some weed with you?
Seems to be a mixed bag type of thing. Many of my mates who are parents straight out refuse to do that and thats cool and whatever.
My parents let me have some drinks and some weed when I was 15 but only when they were around and only at the house.
Their logic being if you're going to do it, at least they would be there to know we were safe

thoughts?

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HannibalAteMeOut · 22-25, F

I'm not a parent but mine did the same, they told me if you ever want to try cigarettes just tell us and we will get them for you but don't try from your friends or strangers. I didn't try smoking until I was 19 because I wasn't even curious. As for alcohol it's very common to drink in celebrations like with relatives and all that so I had alcohol both with them and without them when I would go out with my friends as a teenager so they only told me not to overdo it and just talked to me about poisoning and the dangers etc. They have the same attitude about everything, like with sex also, they told me to only do things I'm comfortable with and not get influenced by what others are doing and just to use protection and be safe. I think the more a parent demonizes something and talks negatively about and restricts their children from doing, the more the kids are curious to try. That's why I had friends with conservative parents who did wild stuff and I had to cover for them while I reached a certain age until I tried out some of these things myself and never got in trouble.

dimfok · 26-30, M

@HannibalAteMeOut Literally 100% on point . Wish more people would read your comment.

HannibalAteMeOut · 22-25, F

@dimfok I don't get what "strict" parents think they're gaining. They're just teaching their children how to become better at lying. And if they get into a dangerous situation they're wondering how that is possible.

dimfok · 26-30, M

@HannibalAteMeOut Perhaps they have a hope of fully preventing their kids from doing whatever it is they're afraid of. I still remember something my father told me quite a while ago. I wanted to open a Facebook account (yeah I was little) so I asked my parents about it. His response: "I might not fully like the idea but if I tell you not to do it you'll just do it without me knowing. Just be careful"