are you a bad mother if you put your child in their crib to cry because you are overwhelmed?

Too bad not all men reserve their seed with the intention of being present fathers, isn't it ?

@bijouxbroussard: I am not sure about west, but we asians love our families. we have a very family oriented society as well. also in here it's a very taboo thing to even have sex with a girl if he is not going to marry her.

@DragonBorn: "Oh, East is East and West is West, and never the twain shall meet,
Till Earth and Sky stand presently at God's great Judgment Seat..." (Rudyard Kipling)

People certainly love their families here, but there are different attitudes about sex and what makes a family.

@bijouxbroussard: yeah but not family oriented, and that's the different. also that attitude seems very flawed, especially to younger people.

@DragonBorn: You do realize that even couples are sometimes overwhelmed by a teething child...right ? You're being critical, but you don't [i]really[/i] know her situation. Her spouse or partner may be working outside the home.

@bijouxbroussard: well my last reply was for your comment above mine, not for the original one, and the one above that one was for your first post. please don't mix them all together. and now you again got back to the original post's area. okie I will answer that. sure there are problems for a couple no matter where they live, especially in this capitalistic society where everyone is busy to earn money. some people in here do two jobs to survive, the life is hard in here than over there. that's why I didn't blame anyone in the first post. I said there is daddy to help. if he was away, I am sure he can come and spend some of his time for the baby, at least until they grows up. I don't believe a man should forget his responsibilities that he should do to his family. just as the woman, a man has a responsibility too take care of his offspring, and in a very family oriented society it wouldn't be a big problem at all.