It's so over...

Went to get some water for my daughters bath and baby cried and my boyfriend said her bath will have to wait as he didn't know what was wrong with baby. She'd only just started crying and he hadn't even picked her up, so I had to leave Bath to sort baby out.
What kind of man don't care like this. I've give him to many chances it's so over. My daughters deserve better

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SW-User

What you have said isn’t enough of a valid reason to want to end your relationship!

There’s gonna be a lot of bumpy roads on your journey as parents

Stick together and work it through together.

Unless the guy physically harms you or your child or emotionally crosses the line in a harmful way mentally work with him.

It’s about growing together as a team as healthy and as best you can and if some days are shit then try again and move on without resentment

Don’t forget that you both loved each other enough once to make a baby.

Two way street. Teamwork!

MiraRoss · 31-35, F

@SW-User since our first baby we have had problems and I've tried working with him. You have no idea what we've been through and when I found out I was pregnant with the second he said I'd cheated on him because we want very active in that department. After 7 years that crushed me. Despite that I let it go as we had another baby on way and I gave him the chance to change and he did for a little bit but now. We back to same

SW-User

I’m routing for you both. For your family.

I understand there’s more to it than I know but my answer was based on the info you gave in your question and it didn’t constitute a separation in my book.

Please don’t give up on each other because of the imperfections

Grow together and learn from it, then move forward from it with strength and determination for you all.

Breaking points happen in every relationship, you just gotta know when to walk away for a breather and when to talk it through.

Even changing the narrative helps like “offering him a cup of tea or a coffee, or suggesting a date night or instigating a hobby together”

You gotta work at it.

@MiraRoss

MiraRoss · 31-35, F

@SW-User nah I'm not doing this anymore I'm better off without him. My daughters deserve better. He spends more time on his computer than with his kids

SW-User

What are your flaws ?

Good luck to the pair of you. @MiraRoss

MiraRoss · 31-35, F

@SW-User my flaws? I cook I clean I worked before I had kids now I look after them aswell as everything else. What are my flaws.... I'm too nice

SW-User

Everybody has flaws.

Being a Mum isn’t a God given right it’s a privilege and that kind of domestic work comes with the calling.

Bare in mind you’re in lockdown and emotions are running high. Anything could trigger an argument if sensitive enough.

Try and look at it objectively, get some fresh air and exercise and think things through with better clarity and mindset.

Take Care 🌸@MiraRoss

MiraRoss · 31-35, F

@SW-User I never said it was a right. My second child was a gift, carm down a bit.
And we was having problems before this virus came.
I don't understand why people still think it's our job to do everything on our own while he sits on a computer playing games all day when he not working

SW-User

But you’re on here right now aren’t you ? Lol 🤷🏻‍♀️

Once again take care 🌼@MiraRoss

MiraRoss · 31-35, F

@SW-User so. Its very rare I'm on here unless I chat to people, like you. I'm not on it otherwise

SW-User

Ok unless I say what you want to hear this isn’t getting anywhere.

Lol my advice is given.

It’s up to you.

See ya ✌🏻 @MiraRoss

MiraRoss · 31-35, F

@SW-User I don't want you to say anything lol
You can say what you want.
But your advice to stay with a man who doesn't care about his own kids is a tad bit silly.
I know it's up to me lol

SW-User

You’re welcome 😌@MiraRoss

MiraRoss · 31-35, F

@SW-User lol