I don't understand why my family expect me to be stressed about my daughter getting married in November.

My brother sent me messages the other day about how stressed I must be. I told him not to bother because I'm not stressed.
She's getting married of her own free will to a man she loves very much. I'm not losing a daughter. It's not like she has been sentenced to death or anything. I'm happy for her, not stressed.
Jeez...if my own family don't know me by now then will they ever ?

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MaryJanine · 61-69, F

When my niece got married (three years ago) my brother informed me about the upcoming nuptials but he said I wasn't invited to the wedding because "they aren't getting married in a church and you wouldn't like that." A wedding is a wedding, to me. Oh, well.

Six months afterward, he took me with him to a trip to Walgreens. Out of thin air, he said, "I talked to Mrs. Morales today."

I had no idea who he was talking about, and I asked him, "Who the hell is that?"

"Amy - your niece." I wasn't invited - how did I know?

A month ago, he grudgingly gave me a ride to CVS. I didn't see my niece in the back seat of the car until she got out and gave me a loving hug. She exclaimed, "It's been a long time! I haven't seen you since the graduation (college, to which I was invited)." Well, that didn't sit too well with her father. As she got back into the car, she leaned forward and said, "You just HAVE to meet Eric (her new husband)."

I replied, "That would be nice. I heard about Eric, but I never MET him."

My brother practically had steam coming out of his ears. My God - she's my niece. Why shouldn't I talk to her? He never said much about his new son-in-law anyway.

Wraithorn · 51-55, M

@MaryJanine He seems to not want you involved in her life. Any idea why ?

MaryJanine · 61-69, F

@Wraithorn I haven't the vaguest. He's been secretive ever since he married June (his wife). I have gotten along with her better when he brought her around with him - AFTER the wedding. As for my niece, I've always loved her, and he knows it. Maybe it's because his first daughter was stillborn and he was worried he would never have a child. But along came Amy- pretty, loving and fun.

Wraithorn · 51-55, M

@MaryJanine Well I hope the situation improves and I hope Amy and her man have a splendid life on this here third rock from the sun.

MaryJanine · 61-69, F

@Wraithorn Thank you from my niece and her husband. And I hope you have a good time at the wedding and enjoy your new son-in-law afterward in years to come. My mom only met my brother's wife once, but she was good to her - ditto my stepsister's husband.