Have you ever had one parent try to poison you against the other?

@Keepitsimple Wow.

@Keepitsimple I see that happening in 20-30 years myself.

People are more civil now then before. It didn’t work. They get divorced and move on. Kids shouldn’t have to hear all the other nonsense no matter what the age@raysam363

@Keepitsimple So far it's only my mother who's keeping up the lies and bashing, my father moved on. However, if my mother was right, he would be the one attacking the family non-stop.

@Keepitsimple My wife got the worst of both worlds: years of trashing of her dad by her mom, and then finally the divorce :(

@raysam363 That is very similar to what happened with my wife's parents. I rarely if ever heard him bash her. But the other way around? A different story.

There were no lies, just abuse but they divorced when I was 9-10, I was almost 50 when he died. When do 2 people move on and live in the present? @raysam363

@DrWatson I think people like that are miserable. Always the victim and need attention and validation

@Keepitsimple Some can, some can't. Those that can't hang on because they realize that once the stories are gone, they have nothing left.

@Keepitsimple I agree. And unfortunately, as I was to eventually discover, my wife "inherited" some of her mothers dysfunctional ways of dealing with conflict.

I was abused. Doesn’t mean I have to be all pyscho with my kids and live my life all crazy. If you live in the past you can never be happy in the present. It was so long ago. @raysam363

@Keepitsimple You and I seem to have more in common than I thought.

I think it's made us stronger people in the long run. It's sad how some people just can't seem to move forward.

I am strong and strong willed lol. I also had wonderful grandparents that were biggest supporters. My life is very good overall. If I ever got divorced (my kids are grown now also) I would move on. They are entitled to their relationship with their father without guilt or persuasion.@SW-User