I don't wanna come off as offensive but why are most daughters so ATTACHED to their mothers so much?

My girlfriends including best friends are so close with their mothers. They have wonderful bonds and that's great but I also get jealous when I see that and others because they had mothers in their lives. Even ones that have mothers that live in a different place, they get to talk to them and visit and their mothers are happy to see them. I get bitter and sad too. Mother and daughter days I NEVER got to experience that. My mom....is a deadbeat woman. Let's just say that. She wasn't really part of my life and didn't want is. She thought I was a mistake. Why can't I have a mother to talk to? It isn't fair!

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greenmountaingal · 70-79, F

My mother was a powerful member of a generational cult-like group that was located in the old Communist Party. She thought Joseph Stalin was God. She was fanatically dedicated to her cause and her secret group. She rejected me at an early age because I was not chosen as a member of her group. She used to say, "All my friends have wonderful daughters. And I have [i]you.[/i]" She was a bundle of anger and rage when it came to me.
All my life I have felt a hole in my heart where my mother's love should have been.

I know how you feel. It isn't easy. You will, somehow, learn to live with it.