should I? Advice? What would you do?

I really want to disappear for 3 days, And make my husband deal with all I deal with because I don't think he Understands how hard it is for me and how easy he has it, how much he takes having a family for granted, and how much time and energy I put into doing things he doesn't think are important to keep up on. He supports me going back to college, yet I'm still the one arranging daycare, doing all the housework, the laundry, and I have to ask his help. He supports the family by working overnight 6 days a week and sleeping all day, never sticking to an actual routine. I sleep alone. I'm alone most of the day trying to keep up. :/

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ItsAllAboutLove · F

Tell him: "We need to talk. I would really appreciate it if you'd help me a hand in housekeeping. After all, you live in the same house and it's about time you show some god damn responsibility and be a man. This relationship isn't going to work otherwise. It's not all about working and letting me do everything at home. That's just not fair. I feel broken hearted. I feel disrespected by you treating me like I'm your slave. And I've had it. From now on, I'm only going to do my own laundry, and you'll do yours on your own. I can clean this house from top to bottom, but so must you. Don't leave it all up to ME! Huney, I love you, but we really need to make some compromises on this. Perhaps you need to make some changes about supporting the family overnight. I believe we can work things out better if you'd get a fulltime job in daytime, so we can spend time together in the evenings and in the weekends. But the way it is right now... Nu-uh. I don't see it workin'."
I completely put myself in your shoes typing those words. But I don't know about the supporting family, what's going on about that. Do they need nurses, like for health issues? There's always help available, we just need to look, and don't let it all rest on our own shoulders to take care of someone else. he should in the first place take care of YOU! You're his wife!!! It's about time he shows some commitment and responsibility. I hope you get to work things out together.

Starkizzed21 · 31-35, F

He makes more work for me to do. I feel like the only adult lol and he has adhd but his dr won't treat it, and we have marriage counseling, but haven't been able to bring this topic up yet. Only had one session. Supporting the family with a paycheck is what he means.

ItsAllAboutLove · F

@Starkizzed21: Ah, OK. I understand the situation now better. There's medication for ADHD though. His doctor should only prescribe it, that's it :) And if he won't, you have the right to see another doctor who does! ;) I've known someone with ADHD so I get what it is like, and since he took medications, things got WAY better. Please let him consult a doctor who can prescribe his meds. Wish you good luck with everything :)