Did you have a favorite relative, e.g. Aunt, Cousin as a young child & then learn something horrifying about him or her as an adult?
Your favorite Uncle is a pedophile. Your favorite cousin stole from your parents. Your Grandfather abused your Dad.
I have a very charismatic Uncle who became wealthy after beginning his own business and I looked up to him, even wanted to emulate his lifestyle. I later learned he did this--started a business-- because he was a felon as a result of molesting his ex-wife's underage daughter and therefore had difficulty obtaining employment!