Is it okay to stop talking to your father if he always releases his anger on you?

I love my father but I am tired of him releasing his anger on me all the time. He has anger issues and it has become endless struggle for me. I was born sick but I could handle him better in the past but now my illness has become worse but he keeps on releasing his anger on me. If i have to sleep in hospital then he comes to visit me like an angel and become super caring. Then I get better, then we go through all of it again and again. I swear if my health is better I will just handle him like before and let him feel good after he releases his anger towards the world on me. But now i can hardly stand on my feet. I am young but very very sick.

My problem is that I always feel guilty when I stop talking to him. and he is good at making me feel this way. I didn't talk to him for awhile now and my sister text me saying that he says he wish that I just write him "Hi". The problem is what comes after "Hi" for me is like living hell.

Sorry for my bad english, I hope it is clear enough.

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SW-User

Yes, it is. I haven't spoken to my father in 18 years. It saved my sanity as he was emotionally abusive and would not acknowledge it. All the best to you. I hope you feel better soon.

CastAway

@SW-User Similar to me, He seems not aware about my suffer. and always shocked when I get upset. then blame me saying this is life. people fight then talk again and I shouldn't be over sensitive. Maybe people fight and talk again but not when he fights all the day and the next day. once I passes in front of him in the house he looks at me so angry and say I want to smash that face, If I reply in anger he runs after me and insult me and spit in air and give me his middle finger. it goes like this week after week after week then I end up in hospital due to my illness. But he says I get sick because I am depressed and I believe he thinks that he has nothing to do with my depression. even once he brought me books about how to get rid of your depression. I was shocked when he did that. I thought stopping fight with me was the solution.

SW-User

@CastAway My father said the same things. The bottom line is, it is NOT OK for him to treat you that way. It is abusive and you it isn't excusable simply because he is your father.