I found marijuana in my son’s room?

My son is 13 years old and started his first year in a new school this year. It’s his first year in middle school as well as his first in public school so I was a little worried that my son might encounter some bad influences. He’s been a good student and even better kid his whole life. I understand it is not as dangerous as other drugs but it is a gateway and illegal. How should I approach this?

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Nomoretomorrow · 46-50, M

He's a bit young for dope at 13. At that age he'll be easier to deal with rather than taking on a more independent and bolshy 16+ year old. Going mental at him might create a hell of a lot of problems and alienate you from him. He'll probably keep doing it but be more careful about getting caught especially if his peer group are all into it. However being too soft on him won't get across the seriousness of the situation. Having accurate facts about the effects especially on someone so young will be good rather than trotting out the standard semi myths come cliche's which he'll probably just find amusing and hold in contempt. Do you have to be in this alone? What about his friends and by extension their families?

MasterLee · 56-60, M

@Nomoretomorrow it is a dangerous drug. He is in need of intervention. This coddling of pot is plain dumb.

Catholicmamma · 61-69, F

@Nomoretomorrow I’m a single mother but I do know some of his friend’s parents. I also have two sisters who live close by.

Nomoretomorrow · 46-50, M

Not coddling, dope is bad for anyone especially the young. But you have to be clever how you deal with this - not soft but clever, going mental at him will make him do it more out of spite then it'll be hard to get through to him. Assertive yet supporting backed up with real facts and support from his peer group parents if their kids are involved too will help

Nomoretomorrow · 46-50, M

@Catholicmamma good, what do his mate's families know?

Catholicmamma · 61-69, F

@Nomoretomorrow Nothing at the moment. The one’s I’ve called acted just as surprised as me.