What is the longest you have gone without talking to a sibling ?
It’s been 7 years since my dad kicked my older brother Josh out of the house for using heroin. It being Christmas n all..I think I would like to reach out .. but yeah .. that’s that
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Mamapolo2016 · F
This is a totally personal decision, and one best not made in the throes of Christmas nostalgia. My recommendation to you would be to go to a local Al-anon meeting or call their hotline. (That's the group established for people who love an addict.) There you can learn what you might expect if you find him, and how to prepare yourself. And how to contact a group near you. They can help you understand what enabling is and how to stop yourself from doing it, if you find him.
Truth is - every human is different but in many ways, every addict is the same. There are glimpses of the person (or maybe just the drug's impersonation of the person) but by and large you are talking to the addiction.
People tend to forget about siblings and their pain and loss.
And there is also your well-being to consider. Suppose you don't reach out and three Christmases from now learn it's too late?
Tough row to hoe, Alexasmile. I did not have this particular problem but estrangement from several family members for a couple of years. I re-connected for my mother's sake (and I suppose they accepted reconciliation for the same reason) and now both of them, and my mother, are gone. I will forever be glad I dodged that guilt bullet. In my circumstance, it stopped mattering who was right.
Truth is - every human is different but in many ways, every addict is the same. There are glimpses of the person (or maybe just the drug's impersonation of the person) but by and large you are talking to the addiction.
People tend to forget about siblings and their pain and loss.
And there is also your well-being to consider. Suppose you don't reach out and three Christmases from now learn it's too late?
Tough row to hoe, Alexasmile. I did not have this particular problem but estrangement from several family members for a couple of years. I re-connected for my mother's sake (and I suppose they accepted reconciliation for the same reason) and now both of them, and my mother, are gone. I will forever be glad I dodged that guilt bullet. In my circumstance, it stopped mattering who was right.
