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CoffeeFirst · 56-60, F
Spanking has been proven to be harmful and ineffective by professionals. I predict it will die out and what is left should be called child abuse or a fetish.
MethDozer · M
@CoffeeFirst Depends on what is defined as harmful.
CoffeeFirst · 56-60, F
@MethDozer Spanking is. Duh.
MethDozer · M
@CoffeeFirst No I mean outcomes. Like I have a family member with a lying, stealing manipulative little prick of 10 year old. She does little to discipline him. Just tells him to sit there or go to his room. Whan he doesn't she just on it. Ask her why she doesn't just pick him up and put him in the chair and keep doing it till he complies she says " It is damaging to his "emotions" 🙄 Little baby boy needs to learn to accept and conform to his punishments she thinks. That's bullshit. He needs to learn he is just ten and he does what he is told by adults and it isn't his decisions.
The kid does whatever he wants and thinks he can question and talk down to adults. When he doesn't get his way or someone says something he doesn't like, he cries. Cries and wines like he is two at least three times a day. But ask her, Emtional intelligence and teaching him it is okay to cry is more important then behaving and dsicipline. The world is going to eat him alive someday and THAT is child abuse.
They say it is harmful because it knocks them down a peg and damages their emotions and sensitivity. Well you know what? We are comming up with these overly sensitive and emotional basket cases with no discipline and no tolerance to bad feelings. That's much more harmful but these pseudo scientist psychologist want to act like being sensitive and fluffy is the most important. We are raisding selfish weaklings who can't take nothing and look at what's going on. Being highly emotional and passive is not a solid virtue worth nurturing.
The kid does whatever he wants and thinks he can question and talk down to adults. When he doesn't get his way or someone says something he doesn't like, he cries. Cries and wines like he is two at least three times a day. But ask her, Emtional intelligence and teaching him it is okay to cry is more important then behaving and dsicipline. The world is going to eat him alive someday and THAT is child abuse.
They say it is harmful because it knocks them down a peg and damages their emotions and sensitivity. Well you know what? We are comming up with these overly sensitive and emotional basket cases with no discipline and no tolerance to bad feelings. That's much more harmful but these pseudo scientist psychologist want to act like being sensitive and fluffy is the most important. We are raisding selfish weaklings who can't take nothing and look at what's going on. Being highly emotional and passive is not a solid virtue worth nurturing.
CoffeeFirst · 56-60, F
@MethDozer Yeah, I would agree that your family member and her child need some help. I can see where you are coming from and it sounds frustrating to watch. I don't think spanking would be a good solution, though. I think they should get into therapy ASAP with a counselor who specializes in children and parents who have that dynamic.
I don't agree with your last paragraph. I know a lot of wonderful, strong and principled young people.
I don't agree with your last paragraph. I know a lot of wonderful, strong and principled young people.