IVF emotionality

I did 3 IVF cycles. The first IVF, i had 5 embryos that were not tested. They put the embryos in my body but I did not get pregnant. 2nd IVF cycles, I had 2 embryos that were tested and only 1 was viable. They put it in my body and the initial test showed I was pregnant but as the days wore on and I kept doing the pregnancy test, it was showing that I was not pregnant. I did the 3rd IVF cycle, they had 12 eggs and 2 embryos made it to the blastocsyt phase. They did the test of the embryo if they are genetically good. I am so devastated. I was positive that this will be the last IVF i had to go through but now i dont know what to do. I know I have other options that I can do such as donor eggs or adopting but I dont know how to proceed. I really wanted our own baby and the 3 IVF cycle has been such a financial burden for us. I dont know what to do. Can anybody offer me any advice or some positive outlooks?

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St0ut · 51-55, M

I can only telll you may experience.

Both of my kids are IVF. Both are amazing kids. One is an Eagle Scout and the other is a budding author. Both are healthy but both have life long health issues. My daughters eyes are not right my son has hormonal issues nothing too drastic but still.

When the kids were four and five me and my wife decide to get a divorce .

I remarried. My current wife. Wanted to do ivf
I said no for various reasons. It was a deep decision I don’t regret but I feel she resents me for it

Love4All · 56-60, F

@St0ut just fyi I had normal pregnancies, no IVF, and my kids have health issues, including eyes, eyesight and my son had hormonal/growth issues too

NYBagels

@St0ut Thanks for sharing your experience. IVF does affect your marriage with all the emotions that come with it. My relationship with my husband has not been affected - thank God but I think it is more me that is feeling the emotional effects of the IVF. It's hard to deny a woman the opportunity to create her own family. If you do it, it may affect your relationship because of how taxing IVF is and if you don't it still affects your relationship. Either way, it does affect it your marriage. If you are successful with the IVF, it can make your relationship closer and if it doesn't, it may still bring you closer. I think its worth just 1 try. If you can both agree to do it once, then its worth a go.

St0ut · 51-55, M

@NYBagels The IVF was half of the decision that I made before as of now the other half was I still had to be a dad of two kids I divorced The IVF was half of the decision that I made before seven the other half was I still had to be a dad of two kids I divorced her mom thier mom not them.

I couldn’t tell my kids that he I can’t get to the soccer game because I have to watch the baby or I can’t go on the campout for scouting because I have to watch the baby that’s not fair to the kids