IVF emotionality

I did 3 IVF cycles. The first IVF, i had 5 embryos that were not tested. They put the embryos in my body but I did not get pregnant. 2nd IVF cycles, I had 2 embryos that were tested and only 1 was viable. They put it in my body and the initial test showed I was pregnant but as the days wore on and I kept doing the pregnancy test, it was showing that I was not pregnant. I did the 3rd IVF cycle, they had 12 eggs and 2 embryos made it to the blastocsyt phase. They did the test of the embryo if they are genetically good. I am so devastated. I was positive that this will be the last IVF i had to go through but now i dont know what to do. I know I have other options that I can do such as donor eggs or adopting but I dont know how to proceed. I really wanted our own baby and the 3 IVF cycle has been such a financial burden for us. I dont know what to do. Can anybody offer me any advice or some positive outlooks?

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HannibalAteMeOut · 22-25, F

I've heard about people who have even had 20 IVF tries and still didn't give up. But I would suggest not to spend your years trying ONLY with IVF. I think adoption is the best choice, or if you're unsure about it maybe even consider surrogacy.

NYBagels

@HannibalAteMeOut Thanks for your reply. Before i started IVF, i thought it was something easy like some medical procedure you do like a simple mammogram. I thought it was not a big deal although the procedure is scary. The hard part of it is not the injections but the emotional roller coaster that you go through. It comes to a point where you just become a zombie and do what needs to be done just to go through it. Surrogacy is as expensive as the IVF.

HannibalAteMeOut · 22-25, F

@NYBagels it's logical for you to be going through a hard time, it's a huge risk and it gets you tired both emotionaly and financially. Personally I'd have adoption as the first option but I can understand it's not what some people want.