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How do you cope with toxic or negative family members?

I don’t have a positive relationship with my family. I have had Freinds who were more like a mum or a dad to me and I’ve met people who were more like that to me. My dad shouts at me and verbally abuses me and if I start crying or get upset or depressed for any reason I get shouted at and called names. I suffered from depression since I was 10. My mum didn’t want to spend any time with me when I was little and never wanted anything to do with me. Ever since I was 11 my relationship with my mum has been very negative due to her abusive husband who used to bully me when I lived there. My mum has kicked me out of the house when I was 12 or 13 and I was forced to live with my dad. I’m greatful for him not dumping me in care as that would have happened if he didn’t take me in but he can be pretty controlling at times. My dad never supports me or helps me with anything and I’m struggling to get something in place for September as he won’t help me with it. My dad also blames everything on me what’s happened in my past and with college. My aunty throws all my stuff away and reorganises my room when I’m out as she’s the landlord. My uncle tries to help me but he makes arguments worse with my dad by trying to stop it. My dad keeps talking to me about his problems and won’t listen to mine and tells me to shut up and says he’s sick of hearing about my problems. Also my dad won’t let me move out until I’m 25 or in a relationship. Any advice would be appreciated thank you.
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NJA82 · 41-45, M
Mostly I fire them, or the ones who don’t work for me I just tell to fuck off.
cherokeepatti · 61-69, F
@NJA82 They need to be fired...have worked in jobs where one employee could poison the environment with their toxic attitudes. A lot of good people would quit rather than deal with it on an ongoing basis.
NJA82 · 41-45, M
I employ 200 people, when I took over from my Dad about 50 of them were family, I’ve got that down to about 20, I’m not very popular with my family. Lol
cherokeepatti · 61-69, F
@NJA82 Well if they don't have a good attitude family members can be the worst, they have a sense of entitlement and set a poor example for the other workers
NJA82 · 41-45, M
Yep, exactly why they are gone, no one eats at my table for free.