Does anyone parents do this after a fight.?

I'm not saying they should keep being mad and hold a grudge but why after a big blow out fight and having a screaming match the next day they act like nothing happened. It makes it more awkward.

*EDIT*

To clarify I meant my parents and I fighting not with each other.

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plungesponge · 41-45, M

My parents were the same. Nothing actually got resolved, just steam was blown off and the timer reset till the next screaming match.

If you follow the MBTI personality model, they are likely to be sensing, judging types. Sensing types trust what they see and experience (sense), this is what they rely on. They don't really trust abstract concepts and that often means they miss the underlying reason for a problem (they see such thinking as mumbo jumbo, but they are quicker to spot it when that reason creates a visible, tangible problem in real life). Judging types need order and get very shitty if things don't work (ie they tend towards confrontation). So they spot an issue and it drives them crazy, they have a confrontation and blow off steam, but after a superficial fix they don't see the problem anymore. Until the underlying reason brings it up again.

justicexoxoxo · 26-30, M

@plungesponge Are you sure you're not describing my parents because that's exactly what my parents do?

plungesponge · 41-45, M

haha I'm not too surprised. Sensing types are a majority in the population. MBTI has been fairly accurate from what I can tell. If you have a lot of trouble explaining yourself to them, you probably have some opposite traits like intuitiveness (focus on abstract principles rather than tangible reality), feeling vs thinking, or perceiving (prefers to keep options open instead of following rigid structure). Any one of the above will cause clashes

ZenKitzune · F

@plungesponge what type are you?

plungesponge · 41-45, M

I'm not a sensor but I've found that if you need to show them something, work with them and track the underlying issue on a physical chart. They need to see something physically to believe it.

plungesponge · 41-45, M

@ZenKitzune INTJ-A

ZenKitzune · F

@plungesponge well, that explains a few things lol

plungesponge · 41-45, M

@ZenKitzune Like why I'm a freak? lol

ZenKitzune · F

@plungesponge why I dropped my defences around you lol. And yes, total freak. 😅

plungesponge · 41-45, M

😆 You're one too?

ZenKitzune · F

@plungesponge nah I just have a soft spot for them. I'm a bit of a mix as I'm 50/50 extrovert/introvert and feeling/thinking. I'm closest to intp though.