My brother yells at me and I get in trouble?

So, my brother is 22, and I am 20. We are at home for the summer, and my grandparents are coming to visit today. A few minutes ago, I was in the shower, singing (albeit quite loudly) My brother starts SCREAMING at me at the top of his lungs for me to shut up. See, I DON'T put up with that. You either be an adult and ask me politely, or I'm just gonna keep singing. I don't think he should be taught that anger and screaming gets you what you want. In all fairness, he apparently was sleeping, and I woke him up. (Which I was not aware of) My dad then comes and bangs on my door, telling me to be quiet. I just think it's ridiculous that my parents condone my brother's behavior, and don't reprimand him, letting him think that it's okay to yell at me. My dad even said something to the effect of: "You're the reason he's angry, so it's your fault." Upom getting out of the shower, I let my parents know that I will not be cleaning anything until my brother apologizes or at the very least gets in trouble. Am I being ridiculous? Why does he get whatever he wants by yelling, and I get in trouble for it? I just don't put up with letting people get whatever they want because they are angry and scream about it. No, be an adult. Ask me to be quiet like an adult. I'll admit, it was childish of me to keep singing, but why should my brother learn that he can scream at me, be aggressive, and get what he wants? I WILL admit that he is not entirely to blame; I just don't get why aggression is rewarded in my family.

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SW-User

Just as childish not to clean because you're mad at your brother and you're trying to manipulate your parents to punish him the way you think you think they should... at your ages you should already be able to effectly solve your own conflicts

marilynmichelle · F

@SW-User But why should he able to get away with it? Why should I have to listen to people who condone his aggression? I agree, I know it's childish, but what am I supposed to do? Say "Oh, okay. I'll do everything you say even though you let my brother scream at me and be aggressive?"

Novaturient81 · 41-45, F

@SW-User I agree with what you're trying to say. But how you're saying it though. 😑

marilynmichelle · F

@Novaturient81 Wait, me or her? Lol

Novaturient81 · 41-45, F

@marilynmichelle Her. But I get what she's trying to say. She has a point.

SW-User

@marilynmichelle @Novaturient81 I am pretty straightforward ...I don't mean to be indicating that his behavior was okay, but adults don't punish or manipulate people into doing what they want them to do, they just do what needs to be done or they get out of the situation they're in and live on their own and follow their own rules

Novaturient81 · 41-45, F

@SW-User Fair enough. True.

marilynmichelle · F

@SW-User Thanks for helping. I guess I do need to learn to be more mature about it and not be so passive agressive. After all, I guess everything generally is my fault...

Anyways, my mom talked to him, and he apologized. We talked it out and he ended up helping me clean, so it all got worked out.