I don't agree with my family on religious issues?

I have grown up in a Christian home. So, as I have gotten older, I have realized that I don't really agree with my parents on religious issues much anymore. I'm not going to go into detail, as I do not want to start any arguments or even heated discussions with anyone, but just know that I really don't see eye to eye with anything my parents believe anymore. I honestly am not even sure of what I believe at the moment. There is no way I can tell my parents that I don't agree with much of their beliefs, as they center their entire lives around it. They also still force me to go to church as I live under their roof, (Which I completely respect). I'm just worried about how they'll react in the future when they find out I reject some of the things that they've taught me. My dad is also extremely controlling and thinks that even after I am living on my own he will be able to have a say in my life (Who I date, live with, etc.) What should I do? Also, here is a link to a question I asked a long time ago that might better help you understand the situation. https://similarworlds.com/19-Spirituality-Religion/1282998-Can-my-parents-force-me-to-go-to-church
NOTE: Sorry, this is going to be long, but I feel that some background is needed for this question.

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Tatsumi · 31-35, M

I imagine you're on the lower end of 18-21? If so, maybe they just haven't come to terms with you being "my child". Not seeing you as a full-grown woman capable of making her own decisions, ever. [read the other post]. Ahh. That's more difficult.

My overly Christian parents were the same way, for a long time. Though, they were smart enough to know they couldn't stop me from doing anything.

So long as you live there, not much you can do. You could try to fight them on making you go to church. Incidentally, a great way to achieve that would be using the bible as a source to justify you not wanting to go to church. Or about how churches are just giant money shells that don't really care about Christianity, but about all the moolah it brings in. My hardcore Christian parents decided that, themselves. "You don't have to go to a building to worship God. God is everywhere."

If you could back that up with a bible verse or two, in contex, it might help.

Sounds lime your dad is beyond set in his beliefs. If you want to buy yourself some wiggle room until you move out, you're gonna have to move around in that small little box of his. Use his beliefs and counter them within his belief structure. "Church is the most important thing." "Why, when they just preach their version? Shouldn't everyone be able to interpret the bible? Isn't that why God made it? So what is the purpose of church? Why can't I worship in my own home, rather than jusy going to church because "That's what you do."?

In any case, you want a lot of questions, to sidestep his massive ego. You want to appeal to him, as if he thought himself as unfallible as God. Since my parents found it, I imagine there's nothing in the biblr claiming you *have* to go to church.

Well. Basically, you need to either make yourself such a big pain in the ass that they just give up, or work inside his box and flip the script on him.

And, fuck your dad. When yoy move out, you move out. If he does anything, call the police and tell them he's harrassing you. Maybe that'll wake him up to your independence. Once that day comes, man just run for all you're worth.

Anyways, yeah, I'm gonna go there.