Do you let others hold your baby? If so, who is allowed to hold the baby?

@SeaBreeze cant really explain it, but the thought just makes me uncomfortable..

@WildwoodFlower Ok. Was just going to try to offer help or advice, but I can't really bc I can't get a feel for why you're having these issues.

I can tell you...when people I've been close to had a baby (my sister, best friend, cousin), I wanted nothing more than to hold the baby because I loved that baby's mom, and therefore loved the baby like there's no tomorrow.

I can also say, when I had my son I wanted nothing more than those I love to hold him, bc I knew they would love him like I loved theirs.

I let anyone hold him who wasn't sick, and who washed their hands first (and eventually sanitizer was ok with me). But all of this is me. You have to do what you're comfortable with, and then not feel bad about it. Because, believe me people will be making comments to you, and you have to beliebe in what you're doing bc otherwise it will be hard to live with.

Maybe all of this was more hurtful than helpful, and if that's the case I apologize. Just trying to give you an honest perspective.

Good luck. 💙

@SeaBreeze hi thank you for your message. It wasnt hurtful at all.i really cant point my finger on it..but just something about the idea of people holding my baby makes me anxious. Maybe its also becauss i know some people will not respect my boundaries and are going to want to decide how everything goes..and i mean everything...maybe thats why im anxious...i just want to be able to do what i am condortable with for once without feeling like i have to accept everything and not being able to set boundaries and be taken serious...