Is sibling fighting normal?

So I was talking to my friend the other day, and I casually mentioned how my older brother still hits me when we fight like he did when we were kids. (Granted, he doesn't all out punch me with all of his strength or anything. He usually slaps me, so I slap him back.) She immediately got extremely concerned, and said that that wasn't normal. My brother is 21, and I am 19. I don't find it abnormal at all. Siblings fight after all, right?

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Red30 · 31-35, F

Haha why is everyone freaking out...this is normal! I'm 25 and my brother is 26 and we still act silly sometimes. Maybe not slap each other but i'll trip him up when he walks past and he'll do the same kind of thing back, like a playful punch on the arm, but nothing really hurtful. It's a sign of brother/sister affection and we laugh about it. I guess some siblings are more serious with each other due to what the age gap is....? and some are weirdly affectionate with each other like weird wrestling on the sofa. No thanks!

Stark

@Red30 lol weird wrestling on the sofa 😂😂😂

Red30 · 31-35, F

@Stark Yeah! They were just close, nothing weird. I'm still friends with them today and they're ...you know, not up to anything like THAT. But it still made me feel uncomfortable because my brother and I are close but don't show it through wrestling or anything :P

greenmountaingal · 70-79, F

@Red30 You laugh about it. You see it as essentially affectionate. That's fine for you. But if she felt that way, she would probably not post the question here. She is not being injured or anything like that, but hitting is a violation of one's personal space. And when she says it hurts, he says it's not so bad, it's OK because he thinks it's OK...She sounds as if she barely thinks she even has a right to question it anywhere but here.