Will you ever smack your child?
Lets just say there was a valid reason. Can this be considered as abuse if it only happened once?
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Growing up, I've never been smacked but my siblings have been... and honestly I behaved mostly out of fear of getting smacked.
I have to admit that it was such a norm in the house that when my younger sister one time was being a brat, I smacked her - but I felt like garbage after that and never did it again.
Personally I don't believe that I would smack my child... I remember how I lived in fear of my father and I don't think I want my child to be that way with me.
I have to admit that it was such a norm in the house that when my younger sister one time was being a brat, I smacked her - but I felt like garbage after that and never did it again.
Personally I don't believe that I would smack my child... I remember how I lived in fear of my father and I don't think I want my child to be that way with me.
@SW-User this is very true. It creates fear more than anything. Yes the child "may not do it again" or "may respect you now" but it's only because they're afraid of you and sometimes that's not always the case sometimes the kid rebels. I think at a young age a pat on the bum to gain their attention is fine but once they can communicate other methods can be taken. It should also be done in moderation and shouldnt be your only form of discipline
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@Stark in addition, they stop doing what ever it is because they don't want to get smacked again - but there is no guarantee that they understand why they shouldn't, which really is a more concrete way to prevent recurring misbehaviour.
With that said, I really was a good girl - even now I'm very straightlaced, lol. Not sure how much of it was owed to how I was raised and how much of it was me.
With that said, I really was a good girl - even now I'm very straightlaced, lol. Not sure how much of it was owed to how I was raised and how much of it was me.
@SW-User that's true too. That's why communication is extremely important with children. You want them to understand why something is wrong and why they are not suppose to. It shouldn't be because "I said so." Or because "I'm the parent" that is actually one of the worst form of parenting is the "I say so" method. It's not teaching them anything they'll just grow up clueless. Tell them why it's not okay and if you do this at a young age and continue to do it they will understand and listen. But I do know it's not always black and white so it varies and I always was a good child too. Not out of fear though, but my parents always spoke to me and told me why not to do something even when in trouble they always maintain their anger. I always listen too after they told me not to do something and why 🤷♀️ So this method worked out well for me.