How do you navigate life after losing a loved one?

It has been a little over a year since I lost my mother, and honestly, I still don’t know how to explain what that kind of loss does to a person. Some days I feel okay, almost normal, and then out of nowhere the grief hits me like it just happened yesterday. Life keeps moving forward, but part of me feels frozen in that moment when everything changed.

Since she passed, everything feels heavier. Simple things take more effort. Motivation comes and goes. I try to stay strong, especially for the people around me, but there are nights when the quiet feels too loud and the memories come flooding back. I miss her voice, her advice, and the comfort of knowing she was always there. It’s strange how someone can be gone, yet still be everywhere in your thoughts.

I’ve learned that grief isn’t something you “get over.” You just learn to carry it differently. Some days I carry it well, other days it feels unbearable. I try to honor her by living, by pushing forward even when I don’t feel like it. I remind myself that she would want me to keep going, to find moments of joy again, even if they’re small.

So I’m reaching out to others who understand this kind of pain. How do you navigate life after losing someone you loved deeply? What helps you on the hard days? I don’t have all the answers, but I know it helps not to feel alone in this.

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Gibbon · 70-79, M

I first came to this site out of grief. I knew Vickie made an account here when EP shut down so I came out of desperate need to see her words to keep her alive in my mind. It's said grief is love with no place to go. I have accepted there's nothing more true. She passed three years this month and she is with me in heart every day. The pain does subside but it doesn't ever go away. I've been living alone with no family or support acquaintances except occasional contact form her daughter who is over nine hundred miles away.
My complete daily routine changed. I could no longer watch the same shows or even eat eat the same foods we did together. I became so sedantary my health suffered.
Being hospitalized twice is what brought back to the reality that she would not want be to be this way.
Now I have much work to do try recover from the physical weakness my body has has developed and it's extremely difficult.
The loss of Vickie affected me more than any other before including the loss of my parents especially my mother which hit me the hardest before.
I relate to all the feelings you describe but I'm not one who relates to anyone who quickly gets passed it.
One day at time is the only worthwhile advice.