Is delayed grief a thing? Long story short, lost my hero, my dad in 2024 and took it in my...

I've been grieving since my son passed in 2010. I never got to meet him as my ex wife was eight months pregnant when he passed. I may be wrong for not thinking about it everyday, but the days when the feelings come are like a right hook. I honor him on his birthday every year, but for me at least, the grief has always been there.

peterlee · M

Two years is thought to be the standard time. But for some it may take a lot longer. Don’t be surprised if it does. It comes in waves.

If you don’t grieve at the time of the loss, it will come out later. Then you may need counselling/ help.

Having good friends makes the pain less.

We all grieve from time to time. Hard, but part of life. We rebuilt, but not forget.

MellyMel22 · F

Took me a while with pics, but I didn’t put them away, I wanted them to stay where they were. Eventually it was easier, but sometimes it makes me sad still.

I think there will always be a sadness for them, we just push through and it gets a bit easier.

Noworries72 · 51-55, M

Hey, Brother. You were probably strong for someone at the time. Any you pay a price for that. You have to grieve sometime and if you figure it out, let me know. Nothing wrong with being sad… not a thing.

cherokeepatti · 61-69, F

It seems like you are. Everyone grieves differently. When we go through something like a death of a loved one we are grieving but trying to get things in order. When we have more time to rest and relax and think the memories start coming back.

Miklee02 · 51-55, F

Oh Rodney 😞
I’m so sorry for your loss. You are allowed to grieve when and where you need to.
Big hugs to you my friend ❤🙏

Sidewinder · 36-40, M

It's difficult to say definitively whether or not delayed grief is an actual thing as everyone who has experienced grief has experienced grief in their own way.

OogieBoogie · F

Yes.... but no.

We all process hard stuff to the best of our abilities.

Some can do it straight away.
Some....it takes decades.
Some only half process it and bury the rest.

Often the brain'll put shit on hold till there is emotional space to roll it round and deal with it.

Perfectly normal 🤗

Mamapolo2016 · F

I think so. Death is the drama. Living without the one you lost is the reality.

aboveaverageaveragejoe · 51-55, M

Very much. I finally let out something I was holding in for maybe 2-3 years when I was finally with someone I was comfortable with.

robbie2499 · 61-69, F

Grief comes in waves.

Nitedoc · 51-55, M

Yes it is.