I think your body's ability to work through emotions especially when something is expected is why you feel it a long time after. I know I did after my husband died in 2023.

I still can't go places we went together. This is what always happens to you after loved one has gone. If you can think about how he would want you to continue with your life and not have prolonged grief as some have, it will help. In time you'll be able to look at photos again and it will be emotionally healthy for you because you shared so many good memories with him. Things will get better for you.

It goes up and down. I lost my dad in 2018 my mom in 2020 and I'm just now starting to feel peace with it. I was all over the place with the grief. I lost my mom to dementia and that was the most difficult loss to accept. I will randomly cry for them sometimes still, I don't know if that ever stops. When my dad died I went to work the next day feeling normal but after a few days it hit me.

Grief is weird and there's no formula for it or way out of it. I'm sorry for your loss.

I've been grieving since my son passed in 2010. I never got to meet him as my ex wife was eight months pregnant when he passed. I may be wrong for not thinking about it everyday, but the days when the feelings come are like a right hook. I honor him on his birthday every year, but for me at least, the grief has always been there.

What you’re describing is actually very common. When someone has a long illness like dementia, a lot of the grief happens before the loss, so at first you’re running on acceptance and strength. Later, when life slows down and the permanence really sinks in, the grief can resurface more deeply. It doesn’t mean you weren’t grieving before — it just means your heart is processing it in layers. There’s no timeline for this, and nothing is “wrong” with you. It’s love finding its way out.

Two years is thought to be the standard time. But for some it may take a lot longer. Don’t be surprised if it does. It comes in waves.

If you don’t grieve at the time of the loss, it will come out later. Then you may need counselling/ help.

Having good friends makes the pain less.

We all grieve from time to time. Hard, but part of life. We rebuilt, but not forget.

sorry to hear of your dad, perhaps you blocked a lot of his passing out, because it was too much devastation for your mind to take on, and now your minds starting to register it and now the grief is setting in, just my take, again really sorry to hear about it and hope you get the help/ support you need.

It seems like you are. Everyone grieves differently. When we go through something like a death of a loved one we are grieving but trying to get things in order. When we have more time to rest and relax and think the memories start coming back.

Oh Rodney 😞
I’m so sorry for your loss. You are allowed to grieve when and where you need to.
Big hugs to you my friend ❤🙏

It's difficult to say definitively whether or not delayed grief is an actual thing as everyone who has experienced grief has experienced grief in their own way.

Yes.... but no.

We all process hard stuff to the best of our abilities.

Some can do it straight away.
Some....it takes decades.
Some only half process it and bury the rest.

Often the brain'll put shit on hold till there is emotional space to roll it round and deal with it.


Perfectly normal 🤗

Very much. I finally let out something I was holding in for maybe 2-3 years when I was finally with someone I was comfortable with.

I think so. Death is the drama. Living without the one you lost is the reality.

Why not... a kind of grief PTSD

Grief comes in waves.

Yes it is.