My technically "nonverbal" son has been saying phrases lately :)

My son was diagnosed when he was 2yo with autism mild to moderate and m2m adhd. For some time my son was nonverbal but he does say many words he just doesn't use them functionally.

He is able to say
hot
hat
cross
circle
heart
rectangle
triangle
hexagon
yellow
dada/mama
up
ball
clap
star
juice
sit
hey
no
square
turn right
turn left

I am so proud of him for saying those words but his dad and grandpa who i am keeping away from him because I don't want anyone to try to take away from my sons accomplishments and progress claim he can't talk and i'm making it up

I just tell them idc what you think the therapists have heard him talk and i'm with my son 24/7 you might see him once a month so idgaf what you think or have to say about it. I don't want either of them around my son. I want people to say encouraging things to my son and tell him how good he doing or how smart he is. Do not criticize him for not doing this or that when he has worked so hard and accomplished so much. I don't introduce my son as autistic because you don't introduce people by their disabilities but by their abilities. You don't tell someone constantly you can't do this or that. We focus on what you can do and work on the things you can't. It causes the person to doubt their abilities and have self-doubt.

Recently my son started saying phrases. The other day I was taking him to the park and when I was buckling him in he said "I don't want to" he said it five times two times not so clearly. Then today my son said "don't go to sleep" because I was laying down on the couch about to fall asleep.

society operates like a manufacturing machine. Schools, work force, higher education. We are all treated like inventory. everybody passes through the same sized little holes, are created in the same size molds and are discarded for having physical flaws that interfere with the items ability to pass through the machine the same way the other items do. Because of this notion it causes the "discarded" people to feel a sense of not belonging or like there is something wrong with them.

There is nothing wrong with anyone who is different. There is something wrong with a society that treats humans like objects and expects everyone to be the same.

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WolfGirlwh0r3 · 36-40, T

@DeluxedEdition but on the subject of this actual post, i am with you, your son is not Neurotypical, and his dad and grandpa are ableist Pieces of shit, as a Neuro-atypical person myself, the world tried to force me into thier ease, not into what i needed to succeed....

DeluxedEdition · 26-30, F

@WolfGirlwh0r3

tried to force me into their ease, not into what i needed to succeed....

this is exactly what I feel like his dad and his dad's family do. They say discouraging things because he isn't doing things at the same pace as everyone else. HE ISNT EVERYONE ELSE. I have done a lot of research because I had no idea what autism was. So when I got the diagnosis for my son I felt blind-sighted. I have basically discovered you can't change the non-neurotypical person. you can't assume everyone is going to think/perceive the way you do just because you do. They are the way that they are and that is beautiful, and there is nothing no amount of medicine or therapy that is going to change that. You have to allow them to build on their strengths be aware of their weaknesses so that they can adapt the best way that they can and overcome them.

really specific example: a lot of neurotypical people do not like talking on the phone. especially if the phone call is random or unexpected. Neurotypical people feel safe in routine and what is familiar. Unfortunately, phone calls are a big part of adult life. And specifically, a societal expectation held by non-neurotypical people. It's expected without little to no consideration of the fact that there are people who CAN NOT talk on the phone. So a lot of neurotypical adults have resorted to doing their appointments or speaking with doctors or bills through email to save them from having to make that dreaded phone call.

I saw a seminar where a psychologist described autism as a superpower. Elon Musk, Mozart, Beethoven, Nichola Tesla, Albert Einstein, Tim Burton, Bill Gates, Charles Darwin are all on the spectrum.

How can anyone ever maximize their potential/greatness if you/society/family make them feel like they aren't good enough and you don't appreciate them?

WolfGirlwh0r3 · 36-40, T

@DeluxedEdition you are the momma bear that your son needs. I will say, there are some meds that could help depending on how his adhd presents, but the Autism part will certainly be the biggest obsticle he will have. When i was in school, the teachers were so certain i had ADHD because i didnt look like i was paying attention that eventually they demanded i have my brain scanned, just to prove to my mother that i was the problem, and low and behold my brain got scanned and they found out i used both sides of my brain at the same time, so i am creative and analytical at the same time, i love math and music, and have all the same pecularities of Ben Franklin who was also like this, even to the hyper kinky and sexual.

i understand pretty much anything i get to read or look at, when i am putting furniture together i will have the 3D built model in my head at all times and may even jump steps as i know what is needed next for the build. You just have to support your son and keep offering him things to do till you can find what will drive him and give him the outlet for all his power

DeluxedEdition · 26-30, F

@WolfGirlwh0r3 Thank you for sharing. I really enjoyed hearing your thoughts and perspective on this issue as a neurotypical person. Teachers are also a cog in the manufacturing machine I was referring to. They want everything to run smooth and for everyone to just move along without providing a lot of effort or changing on their parts. You sound like despite your obstacles (your dad not being supportive) you took it upon yourself to build on your strengths. I love that for you. I bet they feel foolish now😏

WolfGirlwh0r3 · 36-40, T

@DeluxedEdition I wish your Son a kinder time in his future