Sa: I'm in tears! (in a good way)
I'm so, so happy! I heard my son, Tommy, call Arthur "dad" for the first time!
So, small bit of back story for those who don't know. Tommy's biological father was a horrible person. Threatening my and Tommy's life to get his way. I ran away from him with Tommy as a baby, rebuilt our lives, and eventually found Jessica and Arthur. I told Tommy he shouldn't feel obligated to see Arthur as a father. He's a good man and a good father to his girls, but if Tommy didn't want to see him as a father, then there's nothing more to it.
Well, earlier today, I got back from work and did my after-work-relaxing routine when I heard Tommy and Arthur playing video games together in the other room. I don't know what they were playing, but suddenly I heard "Damn, dad, how are so skilled with such a shit character?"
So many thoughts and emotions shot through me in a second. Fear that his biological dad was somehow here, relief when I realized he was calling Arthur 'dad', irritation that my son is swearing, shock he called Arthur 'dad', love that he has a real father figure and recognizes him as such, and so many more emotions I can't describe.
When I had a chance to talk to Arthur away from Tommy, I asked him what he thought about and if that was the first time. He said it wasn't the first, but he never brought attention to it so as not to embarrass Tommy or risk him stopping. Apparently Arthur was really touched by the gesture as well.
Not sorry for a long post. I love my family.
So, small bit of back story for those who don't know. Tommy's biological father was a horrible person. Threatening my and Tommy's life to get his way. I ran away from him with Tommy as a baby, rebuilt our lives, and eventually found Jessica and Arthur. I told Tommy he shouldn't feel obligated to see Arthur as a father. He's a good man and a good father to his girls, but if Tommy didn't want to see him as a father, then there's nothing more to it.
Well, earlier today, I got back from work and did my after-work-relaxing routine when I heard Tommy and Arthur playing video games together in the other room. I don't know what they were playing, but suddenly I heard "Damn, dad, how are so skilled with such a shit character?"
So many thoughts and emotions shot through me in a second. Fear that his biological dad was somehow here, relief when I realized he was calling Arthur 'dad', irritation that my son is swearing, shock he called Arthur 'dad', love that he has a real father figure and recognizes him as such, and so many more emotions I can't describe.
When I had a chance to talk to Arthur away from Tommy, I asked him what he thought about and if that was the first time. He said it wasn't the first, but he never brought attention to it so as not to embarrass Tommy or risk him stopping. Apparently Arthur was really touched by the gesture as well.
Not sorry for a long post. I love my family.
