I wanna know if I sound petty......

My babies dad has been seeing her eight week one hour a week. She is nearly two and he has never asked me any questions about her and he also seems anxious/ nervous around her from what my mum's told me she was there for my daughter for three sessions for her comfort. In general he seems very nervous and there is red flags has been since his involvement and been to court and they want to see what happens even with his red flags.
He is to have her for five hours knowing nothing and now I'm being told I have to write up a book about her for him because he doesn't ask questions and I'm the bad parent for not telling him anything even if he doesn't ask. He just doesn't seem interested in her at all I have a social worker at the moment and she has no concerns even though there is.
Just makes me feel like I'm being petty what do you guys think I feel like her father mother I shouldn't have to tell him how to be a bad, he's no confidence In anything and if I offer advice he says I'm controlling I'm so at a loss. I want my daughter to be safe but I fear for her safety

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SUPERVlXEN · F

Without knowing anything about you or him, or what kind of relationship you had and how it ended, I have to ask myself from where he should have any confidence in how to be together with the daughter of both of you from being together with her for one hour a week.

It would be better for your daughter to have both a mother and a father as long as both of you contribute positively to her upbringing. It's a partnership raising kids, even if the mother and father no longer are a couple.

Again, I'm not sure what the exact red flags are and whether there's a real risk for the safety of your daughter.

Miram · 31-35, F

@SUPERVlXEN she just told me he is a registered sex offender

MiraRoss · 31-35, F

@SUPERVlXEN I was with him not even three weeks it wasn't planned I was on the pill. I left him because he was controlling. He was police involvement for Sarah's law

SUPERVlXEN · F

@Miram / @MiraRoss
That definitely is a high risk. Ugh. I understand your worries and hope you can get the right sources help you out. Is there some sort of organisation where you live to support single mother women with legal advice?

MiraRoss · 31-35, F

@SUPERVlXEN I'm currently trying to get new social worker but there's not much about I did have a family worker but she was all for him. He's made it out that I'm unstable

SUPERVlXEN · F

@MiraRoss
I get you have a social system with an assigned social worker. But the case for social workers is that they usually are overburdened with cases to deal with. Hence my question for volunteer organizations that specifically work to help single mothers dealing with these kind of issues as they're more specialized and will throw everything into those cases they involves themselves with.

MiraRoss · 31-35, F

@SUPERVlXEN I haven't found any

SUPERVlXEN · F

@MiraRoss
I found this list, if you're in the UK as I believe you are:

Key Resources for Legal Help
Citizens Advice: Offers free, confidential advice and can direct you to local services or legal aid options.
Women's Aid: Provides support for domestic abuse survivors, including links to local services and potential legal advice/funding assistance.
Gingerbread: Focuses on single parent legal issues, offering advice on family and child law.
Law Centres Network: Provides face-to-face legal advice in various locations, often free or low-cost.
Law Society's Find a Solicitor: Use this tool to find solicitors specializing in Family Law or Children Law (with accreditation) in your area.
Child Law Advice: Offers free specialist advice on child and family law.
Advocate (Bar Pro Bono Unit): Can provide free representation from volunteer barristers for court cases.

MiraRoss · 31-35, F

@SUPERVlXEN I did try the citizen advice and they never got back on touch. But will look at the others thank you

SUPERVlXEN · F

@MiraRoss
I hope you can find help.