I Am a Father
I am a father, by choice.
I have wanted each one of my three children.
For me fatherhood isn't one of those ''plant the seed and come back in 6 years later (When the child can kick a ball'' deals.
I was a father from the onset, nurturing my children when they were still in the womb.
Once born, I took part to every stage, the bottle feeding in the middle of the night, the nappy changing, the comforting, the putting to sleep, the story reading, the play, school, activities.
I grew up with a father who hadn't wanted me.
I was conceived out of wedlock and was the reason my parents had to get married.
All through my childhood my father made me feel I wasn't good enough. He made me responsible for my presence (as if he had nothing to do with it).
I see my role as a father very differently from my own father.
My children deserve the best from me.
They deserve my support, my time, my attention.
They deserve to be encourage to discover who they are, what are their gifts, and to discover where their dreams pull them to.
They deserve to know that I loved them already before they were born. That I love them know and will love them till my last breath.
They deserve to know that they were wanted and needed in mine and their mother's life.
Although I am now getting separated from my children' s mother, I will with her remain a parent.
By taking part to their conception I have taken on the responsibility to support them and help them grow, strong, independent, and able to choose their own path.
I recently heard someone who is divorced describe him/herself as a single parent.
I felt it was an usurpation of the title as there was shared custody of the children. The other parent is still there and still involved in their life.
Real single parents are on their own. The other parent is either unknown, dead, or has refused to be involved in the raising of the child.
My ex, as ex as she maybe, will always be their mother.
And I will not strip her of that role.
And as a father I will be present.
I have wanted each one of my three children.
For me fatherhood isn't one of those ''plant the seed and come back in 6 years later (When the child can kick a ball'' deals.
I was a father from the onset, nurturing my children when they were still in the womb.
Once born, I took part to every stage, the bottle feeding in the middle of the night, the nappy changing, the comforting, the putting to sleep, the story reading, the play, school, activities.
I grew up with a father who hadn't wanted me.
I was conceived out of wedlock and was the reason my parents had to get married.
All through my childhood my father made me feel I wasn't good enough. He made me responsible for my presence (as if he had nothing to do with it).
I see my role as a father very differently from my own father.
My children deserve the best from me.
They deserve my support, my time, my attention.
They deserve to be encourage to discover who they are, what are their gifts, and to discover where their dreams pull them to.
They deserve to know that I loved them already before they were born. That I love them know and will love them till my last breath.
They deserve to know that they were wanted and needed in mine and their mother's life.
Although I am now getting separated from my children' s mother, I will with her remain a parent.
By taking part to their conception I have taken on the responsibility to support them and help them grow, strong, independent, and able to choose their own path.
I recently heard someone who is divorced describe him/herself as a single parent.
I felt it was an usurpation of the title as there was shared custody of the children. The other parent is still there and still involved in their life.
Real single parents are on their own. The other parent is either unknown, dead, or has refused to be involved in the raising of the child.
My ex, as ex as she maybe, will always be their mother.
And I will not strip her of that role.
And as a father I will be present.
