You ever hear something and it makes you cry?

My teenage daughter has a bf who spends a lot of time at our house. He is painfully quiet. I never know what to say to him. His mother died of cancer just last year. He keeps his feelings to himself. While talking to my daughter yesterday she said " you know what he said to me? He said I really love your mum". He talked about how he loves being at our house and doing family stuff with us. I had no idea. I must have cried for 10 mins. Im so glad we can give him that. 18 is a hard enough age, without losing your mother.

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ShenaniganFoodie · 36-40, M

Understanding emotional security means recognizing how feeling accepted and valued by others enables you to be vulnerable and authentic. When you feel emotionally secure in a relationship, you’re more likely to open up and share your true self.

Kuronekko · 41-45, F

@ShenaniganFoodie we are hoping that one day he will. Until then I am here for whatever he needs from a mother figure.

ShenaniganFoodie · 36-40, M

@Kuronekko
It was your mother who loved you before you were born - who carried you for a long months close to her heart and in the fullest of time took God's hand in hers and passed through the valley of shadows to give you life. It was she who cared for you during the helpless years of infancy and scarcely less dependent years of childhood. As you have grown less dependent, she has done the countless, thoughtful, trouble-healing, helpful and encouraging things which somehow only mothers seem to know how to do. You may have accepted these attentions more of less as matters of course and perhaps without conscious gratitude or any expressions of your appreciation. You are rapidly approaching the time in life when you will be entirely independent of your mother. The ties which dependency has bound you to her may be served as you grow older, but the tie of mother-love can never be broken.

Kokakola · 31-35, M

@Kuronekko more wisdom , understanding and power to you.