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What can i do to contain my near-puberty boys as a lone mother?

i always think in that matter since divorce , now my boys are near puberty and i need some advices, how can i handle my boys in this difficult duration in their life, my older son started to have more fights with his school mates, how to handle him without being too cruel with him
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Tatsumi2 · 31-35, M
Boys need a father. We're wild, rowdy, rambunctious typically. Without a stern force, its been shown that boys dont do well without a father. 80% of the men in prison came from single-mother homes. Girls show to be fine. Puberty is an importat time.

The problem is exactly that. The mothers job is to create the safest, most pure,loving environmet for the kids up to puberty, and that's super important for healthy development, but once the boys start popping off the testosterone, more sternness is required. Coddling would be the worst thing you can do, so typically this is when the father needs to take over to keep them in line.

Boys have aggressive energy that needs to be drained, otherwise it's like filling a water balloon with water. Eventually that shit is popping and people are also getting popped in the nose.

Athletics, and specifically combat sports will give them a group of males that can deal with their shit and help reign them in, along with teaching them how to defend themselves, and discipline, and humility in getting their asses kicked.

Point is: find a physical hobby for them that will drain their energy, give them discipline, and preferably in a male group with good, healthy, strong male role models they can mirror. Otherwise, they will find bad male role models to mirror.
salwa · F
@Tatsumi2 this answer freaked me out, but still useful
Tatsumi2 · 31-35, M
@salwa i have that exact effect on people. Either way, glad to know it was at least partially helpful. Good luck with the youngin's.