I Am a Mother

I feel like my child doesn’t trust me with anything, he won’t tell me anything that ever happens, and it worries me that if something bad would ever happen he wouldn’t trust me enough to tell me about it. I have no idea what I am doing wrong. How can I help, when I don’t know what’s going on?

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SW-User

Lot of kids are like that. I was growing up and I still kind of am. He probably doesn’t know how to tell you or how you would react if he did tell you something. He’s maybe scared that you might judge him or tell him off. One thing you could do is sit him down and tell him I care about you and if you ever want to tell me anything you can , I won’t be mad at you or judge you as I love you and I want to try and help you. Also , if he does Adventurly tell you say to him we will do our best to get you through this. Things like that help build up trust.

Justbeingme79 · 41-45, F

how old his he ? my son started doing that at age 13 and stopped at 18 he know over shares with me lol

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Justbeingme79 · 41-45, F

@KillerQueen1 yeah its his age its nothing you do or did .he is just a teenager and teenagers suck i have 4 of them . its him not you lol

KillerQueen1 · 36-40, F

@Justbeingme79
😂 thanks darling.

Justbeingme79 · 41-45, F

@KillerQueen1 anytime

SW-User

I think boys are much less likely to share information. I don't think it's personal against you it's just how boys are.

KillerQueen1 · 36-40, F

@SW-User
You don’t get it, I was unlikely to share information too. But he won’t ask for help if something happens, he won’t tell anyone. And it worries me.

Love4All · 56-60, F

My kids told me they were not telling me anymore because I over reacted 😞

KillerQueen1 · 36-40, F

@Love4All
I said that to my mom when I was younger too. I don’t think I overreact. I don’t know if he thinks I do. Oh my lord

Love4All · 56-60, F

@KillerQueen1 it’s frustrating

KillerQueen1 · 36-40, F

@Love4All
I bet.

ms20182878 · 61-69, M

How old is he?

KillerQueen1 · 36-40, F

@ms20182878
14

Love4All · 56-60, F

@KillerQueen1 my son stopped telling me things at 14-15

ms20182878 · 61-69, M

@KillerQueen1 He is learning to be independent, and he may be concerned that when he tells you things that aren't going well in his life, that you will jump in and try to fix them for him... and embarrass him. There are a lot of raging hormones in boys at that age, which can also be confusing for him and doesn't help. Try not to press him for details on his life, for that will probably cause him to withdraw, but just keep the light, general conversation going. And tell him that he can always come and talk to you when anything is bothering him. He will talk to you when he needs to.

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