I'm not trying to be cruel here and will likely get alot of hate. That being said life is not this complicated. If a a relationship is working? Nourish it. If not kick it to the curb. Please stop with all this self analysis and toxic this. Toxic that.
Life is not complicated. YOU make it complicated.
I am qualified to say this.

I see nothing wrong here 🌸 actually I'm crossing a similar path and I relate.
I appreciate those who receive because I know that giving isn't possible without receiving.
But yeah there's a limit. Feelings are good indicators for this. Trust in yourself, in your inner knowing.

Not about the relationship or the feminine aspect.

I am Sorry, because my words may sound very harsh to someone who are doing good job of helping others in one way or the other.

If you want to be recognised, appreciated or get something return in any form, you are just a starter in spirituality. Why? because you still have some degree of desires, ego or expectations from what you are giving. When you want something in return of what you are giving, it is not the 100% giving, it is sort of a transaction/deal that you want to make, you trade what you can give for what you want in return, they need not be in the same form. Your actions are not 100% altruistic.

If you think you should help someone, you should have so much strong feeling of giving, that it feels like a duty to you. 🙏