Are people really attracted to what's bad for them, social wise?

I'm learning to put the quote in practice. You know that one that says to say yes to everything you want and no to everything that's the opposite.

That one.

Not really limited to romantic entanglements, but even at work or friendship circle or family. A woman's got to choose healthy and actually act on it, so the universe can deliver.

I just realized pouring your cup to whoever just comes may end making you realize things enough to ask, "What if you save the good parts and actually pour on people who can and want and will help you grow themselves? That way you can both grow? Instead of just you pouring to those who have no intention of pouring back?"

To be honest, I am a bit confused too. Where is the line to draw between kindness and being wise? I love giving. I enjoyed it. But I also appreciate those who give back. Doesn't have to be of equal amount, for as long as they're good bits of whatever they're capable of that come from the heart. Concern. Time. Support. Affection. Words of encouragement. Material.

But I realized that some people just really like to receive. But the rest of the year, they're either MIA or don't bother reaching out. Their loyalty is fickle too. So I don't want to bother myself with their business anymore.

Teach me if you know the limit. I want to be good. But I also want to grow too. So I've decided to limit the access of those that just like to get and get to make room for encounters with new people that would actually help me grow, hopefully, by God's grace.