I Want to Be In a Healthy Loving Relationship

My bf has been so unfair to me...telling ppl lies abt me, always making excuses as to why he can't do simple things for me like drop me home etc. I feel hurt because I financially supported him for abt a year or so when his work was slow....and he always treated other girls soo good...he paid the rent for one of his ex when she was in school but to give me a ride home is a problem.
I have stopped giving him my money..he actually knows it went down.
I feel as if i want him to pay for all that he has done to me....no one knows how he really treats me.

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EnigmaticGeek · 61-69, M

I think you deserve better than you're getting from him.

Stop settling for only what he offers.

There are many other potential BFs from which to choose.

destinyfabulous · 36-40, F

@EnigmaticGeek I believe that one of the reasons ppl stay in one sided relationships is because they feel like they can't do better. Thus feeling is amplified by the fact that guys doh really ask me out. You assuring me otherwise did help though

EnigmaticGeek · 61-69, M

@destinyfabulous I'm glad I helped.

Just know that you deserve everything you've ever wanted in a relationship. Somewhere, there is at least one guy who will not disappoint you.

Also, you don't have to date a guy exclusively to get to know him. In fact, you can often get to know a guy better and sooner if he isn't the only guy you're seeing, because if he has jealousy or insecurity issues, they are more likely to surface than if you are exclusive. It also is much harder for a guy to take you for granted when he knows you have other options.