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I Think Fathers Are Just As Important As Mothers

In this day in age, where we have made so many strides to equality, why do fathers still get the shaft when it comes to their rights with their children? My partner and his ex wife separated over 4 years ago and he has had to jump through hoops, fight, plead and compromise just to see his children. He has never missed a support payment, has never bad-mouthed their mother to them, had taken Parenting after separation classes. She bad-mouths him to their children, refuses to use any advice from the Parenting after Seperation classes. She lied to him so he would allow her to move 5 hours away, promising she’ll do whatever to ensure him and their children have contact and relationships....
Then he moved on, got a girlfriend and is happy, she now will not even let him see their kids. Says stuff to them like “he has a new family now and doesn’t give a shit about you guys.” She has blocked his number so he can’t call and talk to them. She told him recently that if he wants to see them he has to come up there. So he does, goes up there with Christmas presents in hand. His daughter calls him an asshole (the mom says nothing to her), then his ex calls the cops and tells them, who knows what, because they treat him like a criminal when they get there. He even showed them the court order showing he has joint custody and visitation rights. They don’t care and tell him he has to leave. There’s nothing he can do. It’s complete and utter bullshit!! She’s doing this because she’s jealous. What a peace of work! She’s hurting those kids so much! When we finally go to court I really hope the judge sees what she’s doing, calls her on it and tells her it stops now!

I am thinking of starting a huge Fathers Rights movement. This has got to stop!!! A child’s relationship with his/her father is very important. *No I’m not talking about a violent, abusive father, I’m talking about the fathers who do their best and do have theirs child’s best interest at heart.*

I was raised by a terrible mother who should have never had children. My step-dad stuck around even after she took off when I was 16 and my brother was 13. He took the stance of no matter the relationship he had with our mother, that has nothing to do with the relationship he developed with us. He was a pretty damn good parent and I appreciate him.
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morrgin · F
Parental Alienation is real and your ex is strategically using it on you. Only thing you can really do is keep trying even if you don't get anywhere with it. Hopefully in the end the kids will get older and see you were trying and start to question what their mom tells them. Courts have started to take Parental Alienation very seriously and have even changed custody if it's proven so I've read but haven't seen anything for certain on that. You can file for contempt on her among other court actions. Problem is it's expensive and time consuming. My fiance has to go to court for custody soon. His daughter has been living with us for almost two years now. He got Child Support to suspend him having to make payments. His ex is furious. His daughter loves him but is very disrespectful to him. We're only now starting to realize all the things his ex has said to her that are lies to make her think her dad neglected her and abused her mom. She says that her mom told her he left her in drug houses. Uh no. Her dad was missing work and kicking in doors of drug houses getting his infant daughter who is crying, dirty and hungry out of those drug houses that the mom was at and taken their daughter along with her. I'm rambling sorry...The mom gets legal aid for free for family court and they turn their nose up at the dad.
Jeephikelove · 46-50, F
Wow, ya that’s a sick and heartbreaking story. Thankfully she’s been living with you guys. 😊Once my bf takes his ex to court we’re hoping to see a turn around. He hasn’t given up yet.

I hope things turn around for your fiancé, lying to the kids so they dislike their own father is disgusting. @morrgin