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I Think Fathers Are Just As Important As Mothers

In this day in age, where we have made so many strides to equality, why do fathers still get the shaft when it comes to their rights with their children? My partner and his ex wife separated over 4 years ago and he has had to jump through hoops, fight, plead and compromise just to see his children. He has never missed a support payment, has never bad-mouthed their mother to them, had taken Parenting after separation classes. She bad-mouths him to their children, refuses to use any advice from the Parenting after Seperation classes. She lied to him so he would allow her to move 5 hours away, promising she’ll do whatever to ensure him and their children have contact and relationships....
Then he moved on, got a girlfriend and is happy, she now will not even let him see their kids. Says stuff to them like “he has a new family now and doesn’t give a shit about you guys.” She has blocked his number so he can’t call and talk to them. She told him recently that if he wants to see them he has to come up there. So he does, goes up there with Christmas presents in hand. His daughter calls him an asshole (the mom says nothing to her), then his ex calls the cops and tells them, who knows what, because they treat him like a criminal when they get there. He even showed them the court order showing he has joint custody and visitation rights. They don’t care and tell him he has to leave. There’s nothing he can do. It’s complete and utter bullshit!! She’s doing this because she’s jealous. What a peace of work! She’s hurting those kids so much! When we finally go to court I really hope the judge sees what she’s doing, calls her on it and tells her it stops now!

I am thinking of starting a huge Fathers Rights movement. This has got to stop!!! A child’s relationship with his/her father is very important. *No I’m not talking about a violent, abusive father, I’m talking about the fathers who do their best and do have theirs child’s best interest at heart.*

I was raised by a terrible mother who should have never had children. My step-dad stuck around even after she took off when I was 16 and my brother was 13. He took the stance of no matter the relationship he had with our mother, that has nothing to do with the relationship he developed with us. He was a pretty damn good parent and I appreciate him.
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GeniUs · 56-60, M
Happened to me too, too many stories to tell but my story is not even the worst I've heard of had a couple of crackers from guys I worked with.
Jeephikelove · 46-50, F
@GeniUs It’s a terrible epidemic and it needs to change!
GeniUs · 56-60, M
People said to me why don't you report all the things she does but what would be the point? She isn't going to prison and if she got fined it would be paid from my maintenance and would be something else she could blame on me for the kids not having enough. (She took maintenance off the kids when they worked because 'your dad doesn't pay anything.' Direct debit from the bank every month happy to show anybody but oddly enough they didn't want to see, I guess if they hadn't seen the proof they could still believe what my ex told them. (My Mother in law and 2nd daughter were the people I offered to show).
Jeephikelove · 46-50, F
@GeniUs Wow, that is really disgusting that she’s doing that!! The truth does come out...eventually.

I’m sorry to hear you’re dealing with that bullshit!