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I Think Fathers Are Just As Important As Mothers

In this day in age, where we have made so many strides to equality, why do fathers still get the shaft when it comes to their rights with their children? My partner and his ex wife separated over 4 years ago and he has had to jump through hoops, fight, plead and compromise just to see his children. He has never missed a support payment, has never bad-mouthed their mother to them, had taken Parenting after separation classes. She bad-mouths him to their children, refuses to use any advice from the Parenting after Seperation classes. She lied to him so he would allow her to move 5 hours away, promising she’ll do whatever to ensure him and their children have contact and relationships....
Then he moved on, got a girlfriend and is happy, she now will not even let him see their kids. Says stuff to them like “he has a new family now and doesn’t give a shit about you guys.” She has blocked his number so he can’t call and talk to them. She told him recently that if he wants to see them he has to come up there. So he does, goes up there with Christmas presents in hand. His daughter calls him an asshole (the mom says nothing to her), then his ex calls the cops and tells them, who knows what, because they treat him like a criminal when they get there. He even showed them the court order showing he has joint custody and visitation rights. They don’t care and tell him he has to leave. There’s nothing he can do. It’s complete and utter bullshit!! She’s doing this because she’s jealous. What a peace of work! She’s hurting those kids so much! When we finally go to court I really hope the judge sees what she’s doing, calls her on it and tells her it stops now!

I am thinking of starting a huge Fathers Rights movement. This has got to stop!!! A child’s relationship with his/her father is very important. *No I’m not talking about a violent, abusive father, I’m talking about the fathers who do their best and do have theirs child’s best interest at heart.*

I was raised by a terrible mother who should have never had children. My step-dad stuck around even after she took off when I was 16 and my brother was 13. He took the stance of no matter the relationship he had with our mother, that has nothing to do with the relationship he developed with us. He was a pretty damn good parent and I appreciate him.
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Ynotisay · M
A friend of mine is a Family Law attorney and only represents men in court. His stories are mind-blowing. A supposedly gender-neutral court system is anything but. It's one of the most unfair situations out there yet it gets practically no attention. If a guy gets married without a Pre-Nup with conditions attached relating to custody and support he's out of his freaking mind.
Jeephikelove · 46-50, F
@Ynotisay pre-nups mean shit, all the woman has to do is lie, not even have to prove anything. Makes my blood boil!
Ynotisay · M
@Jeephikelove Nope. They're legally binding. And if more men realized that in the eyes of the law marriage is a BUSINESS CONTRACT, there would be less men turning their lives over to a vindictive spouse.
Here's where women do lie though. It's become very, very common and the courts have yet to address it.
In a child custody hearing, at least in California, all a woman has to say is "I was afraid he was going to molest or hurt the child." Boom. The judge immediately suspends visitation. It's then up to the husband to PROVE he wasn't a threat to the child. That means getting statements from friends and employers as well as spending the money to lawyer up. If he doesn't it's on his record. It's become a court strategy.
Women, by the mere fact that they have a vagina, are automatically considered to be the better parent. It's really, really messed up.
Jeephikelove · 46-50, F
@Ynotisay Yup, yup same up here with the lies. It’s disgusting!