I Believe Family Is Very Important

I dont usually write my real life experiences here. But for this one time I need to talk.

My sister is going to a rehab/ nursing facility on Friday. She is an alcoholic and has been for most of her adult life. During this period I feel like I lost her. The sister I once had is no longer there mentally. She has stolen from this entire family to support her habits. Sentimental things can never be replaced. Even the Mothers right my mom gave her off her finger, on her death bed was pawned for drinking. I honestly dont know how to forgive here for things she has done to us.

The doctor told her that she would not live one more year living as she does. I dont know if she will stay in rehab or if she can even do it at this point. Sometimes I feel death would be better. God forgive me.

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dubkebab · 51-55, M

Alcoholism wrecks families.Truth.
I am nearing ten years sober after many failed attempts,scandals and disasters.
Recovery is confusing at first because we have so much to unlearn,but becomes an easy and rewarding practice in time.I wish you and your sister all the strength and compassion you will both need in these trying times ahead.You are not alone in battling this disease.

Mondayschild · F

Thank you! She has to stop lying, stealing.allowing men to use her body for alcohol and most important she has to start respecting her family and the people that have tried so hard to help her. It has been suggested that I attend Al-Anon to find support and learn ways to help myself with all the issues this disease has caused up.

Congratulations on your 10 years clean and sober. YOU are winner in your battle for sobriety.

dubkebab · 51-55, M

Al-anon has been known to help.One learns about setting boundaries and coping with the wreckage active users create.I found tips to help heal childhood issues and support in that program.
I had to lose about everything I held dear before I was ready to sober up,and even then it was a few years of rough road. I'm still not what others would consider sane,haha.
I'm just glad to be alive and not living the lie and able to help others here and there.
Try to stay grounded so you can best deal with this difficult time for your family.Glad to hear she is getting professional help-best thing for her if she can stay steady with it.