My dad ended up taking my husband to the hospital yesterday and he’s coming home soon

Thankfully he didn’t do any lasting damage to himself and he’s going to get the help he needs.

His drug tests were negative for everything else.

I’m still pretty upset with him for choosing to handle his issues like this rather than just leaning into his support system.

We’ll get past it I’m sure. But not today.

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ScreamingFox · 41-45, F

He can't do this right now. I know it's hard on him but it's not about him and he doesn't get to cop out. Not when your kids need you. I hope that he can open up and accept some help.

SwampFlower · 31-35, F

@ScreamingFox Exactly. The kids come first. Before me, before him. That’s what we agreed to when we took them in and had/kept our daughter.

My anger stems from their hurt from this. I could be more compassionate right now if it was just us but it isn’t. I have to play hardball.

ScreamingFox · 41-45, F

@SwampFlower It's not that he doesn't deserve some compassion, he's losing you, his person. Caregiving is hard on the heart. But he could accept some help or some time to gather himself if he isn't strong enough at times. Has he been pushing himself?

I just can't believe he'd be quite that reckless and in front of the kids. There is no excuse, not really, and definitely not now.

If this was his call for help, he must be hurting very deeply knowing he'd be disappointing so many people. I hope this means he's scared himself straight.

I'm sorry beautiful. I can see why losing you is devastating, he's just gonna have to find a way through. I believe he will.