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I Have Family Members That Get On My Nerves

Don't we all? I mean, people meet me and they have no idea. But here is my story.

My grandpa is a narcissist who has tried to ruin bot my parents' marriage and the marriage of my aunt and uncle. Why? My uncle figured out exactly who he was and will not do what he says. (BTW, my parents have been married 22 years and still are so in love it's adorable. My aunt and uncle have been married 19 years.) He was abusive to my mom when she was a kid.

My grandma is addicted to presc<x>ription medications because of her abusive husband and has little to no understanding that we don't want anything to do with either of them.

My uncle A was my favorite person in the whole world, until he got involved with drugs. It broke my heart to find out that he had been using me to get money out of my grandparents for drugs. I was 10 when he was busted and he would make an excuse that he wanted to buy me a toy so his parents would give him money. He would buy my a cheap toy an pocket the rest. He has been in and out of prison for various charges.

My uncle J is also a drug addict, but I've never had much of a relationship with him.

All of this has caused me so much pain. I'm the oldest grandchild and the first to leave home. I had to make my own decision about whether or not to let them into my life. It was not a difficult one. They are not in my life nor will they ever be.

Judge me if you want, but I can't have the manipulation, lies, drama, and pain and feel safe.
elephantwalk
A narcissist can bring chaos on an entire family. It's not wrong to create distance and establish your own way.

I am no contact w/ my father. He had an affair while my stepmom was in hospice dying of cancer then remarried a 4th wife 6 days after her funeral. I finally accepted the fact that he treats people like they're disposable after hoping he might change.

Feeling emotionally safe is worth it. Family doesn't have to be blood.
unanymous1

 
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