I Think I Want a Divorce
Are there any men out there that felt too afraid or guilty to leave their marriage but eventually did? I am stuck like this and need advice.
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greenmountaingal · 70-79, F
It's possible that you are being unconciously disrespectful of your wife; she, as a strong woman, might actually be better off without you. Is it possible that she might secretly feel as you do?
The guy who manages my building stuck out an unhappy marriage for decades because he felt his wife would hate him and she was dependent on him. She, too, was strong enough to rule their family...yet he didn't see her as able to deal with life on her own.
But...she divorced him...and now she is doing fine...
But he isn't because, due to all his guilt, he did not make a decent and fair settlement with her. Now he is barely surviving and she has everything.
So...maybe she is stronger than you think.
And, if you do decide to go for your freedom, remember you are freeing her, too, and she may wind up happier alone, or she may find someone who appreciates her in a way you have never been able to in spite of serious long term efforts. You could be giving her a chance at greater happiness. So do not do anything before you quietly consult an attorney and your accountant so that, if it happens, you won't wind like my bldg.manager; be sure, amidst all this free floating guilt, that you allow yourself enough to live on.
The guy who manages my building stuck out an unhappy marriage for decades because he felt his wife would hate him and she was dependent on him. She, too, was strong enough to rule their family...yet he didn't see her as able to deal with life on her own.
But...she divorced him...and now she is doing fine...
But he isn't because, due to all his guilt, he did not make a decent and fair settlement with her. Now he is barely surviving and she has everything.
So...maybe she is stronger than you think.
And, if you do decide to go for your freedom, remember you are freeing her, too, and she may wind up happier alone, or she may find someone who appreciates her in a way you have never been able to in spite of serious long term efforts. You could be giving her a chance at greater happiness. So do not do anything before you quietly consult an attorney and your accountant so that, if it happens, you won't wind like my bldg.manager; be sure, amidst all this free floating guilt, that you allow yourself enough to live on.
greenmountaingal · 70-79, F