I Think I Want a Divorce

@annamarie65: Yes, both men and women feel this way but most information on the internet is geared toward women.

@mlihere: i would have said the opposite.

@annamarie65: Some sites portray the men who want to leave as bastards that don't want to support their ex's and the children. This is not true with me at all. I want us to be supportive to each other and our child through the whole process and beyond.

@mlihere: thats because in most instances that is the case. i would say 5 to 1 where the guys dump the women and run off...have you talked to her about your desire?

Yes, but in her view, if I leave the marriage I leave the family also. She doesn't want to be friends with me if we split.

@mlihere: the court would say otherwise. it seems like your marriage is already dead if she is telling you she doesnt want to be friends, etc. sounds like shes holding your family over your head for blackmail. if i were you i would be talking this over with a lawyer

She says that I still love her and forgot that I am. That I am emotionally lazy to show the love.

@mlihere: she sounds like a complete whack job, sorry to say, i would definitely go to a lawyer and tell them what you are telling me.

@annamarie65: I can see how she comes across like that sometimes, she is a good woman. I am seeing a therapist (Psych).

@mlihere: its not you that needs to see a psych, she does. she is saying unrealistic things

@annamarie65: She won't go to therapy again, she has gone in the past and all of them said she was fine. In my opinion, they didn't do their jobs properly and delve deep enough.

@mlihere: as i said, you need to consult a lawyer...if she is unwilling to see a psych after acting in such a manner, she may be unfit to raise the children herself. that is up to the lawyer and courts.

@annamarie65: I will consider this.

@mlihere: good idea