I have had enough.

@HoeBag So true. I'll never have an ill word for my first but the second I honestly knew better and did it anyway. Case of wrong head thinking.
Vickie proved there really is the right one for us.

@Gibbon So the first one, was it a situation where the marriage had "ran it's course" type thing?

I have been married only once and that was our situation, we basically just wanted our lives back.

BTW my step-dad was married three times. His second wife was the daughter of s4tan.
He said he came home one day to an empty house, thought they had been burglarized, but then realized what happened and it was the biggest relief of his life.

His entire in-law family was basically the Jerry Springer crowd.

@HoeBag The same thing happened to a friend of mine years ago.
Yes the first 4 years were great then as we each changed jobs our social circle separated and we eventually just drifted apart. It was mutual. I recently learned she passed away from illness not long after the pandemic started. I think she hooked up with female scientists she worked with and moved to NC with one of them. The obituary said that's where she passed. I'm just guessing. It's obvious from her younger brothers words she never had another male relationship.